I have a burden for children who are ignored or bullied. I know that everyone wants to be included. Everyone has something they wish everyone knew about them. Maybe it’s the hurt they feel. Maybe it’s the talent they’d like to share. Everyone has feelings, hopes, and dreams.
My big dream is that children across the nation will begin to choose their friends in different ways. Children will not be popular simply because they are pretty, rich, smart, or just the right size. Everyone will be included. Even those who look differently, speak different languages, have a disability…Their differences will be celebrated. Their hidden talents will be discovered. That will happen if more children see others with their heart eyes.
Are you a peacemaker? Are you good at organizing children? Do you like to include everyone—even kids who are ignored or teased?
When I was in third grade, I watched a little girl get bullied. Her name was Susan. She had white skin and wiry, stringy hair. At recess, she just sat all the time. She just watched other kids move around at phys. ed.
Many days, she was absent. She didn’t have any friends because she looked sickly. No one played with her. No one even wanted to stand near her in line.
One day our teacher said, “Boys and girls, Susan won’t be coming to school any more. Susan died.”
Susan had a very sad life. I regret not helping her But, I lost my chance to make things better for her. I could have stood next to her in line. In could have talked to her during recess.
That was 50 years ago and I’m still sad.
I grew up and became a parent. My son got bullied. I couldn’t be there to prevent the bullying.
I also became a teacher. Students would report bullying. It was hard to do anything about it because the bullies knew how to get away with things. I wasn’t there when the bullying happened.
I realized the bystanders are everywhere. Many children see bullying and want to help, but don’t know how.
Some children see bullying and know how to reach out to the victims. They have great ideas. They know how to prevent bullying. They have heart eyes. If that’s you, teach others how they can also see people with heart eyes.
Vicki teaching the neighborhood kids